As a busy mum there are so many tasks I feel I have to do. Even as I am writing this, I know in the back of my mind I have bedrooms to sort out, laundry to do, clothes to put away, tea to cook etc. The list is pretty much endless! So where can I find time for myself? I have to make sure everyone else is good right? I mean that is how I know I am doing good as a mum surly?

No way! Putting everyone else first will only cause burnout and then you’re no good to anyone!

It has taken me a long time to realise the truth behind the above statement. I always felt that everyone else needs had to come before my own, and I will eventually get time for me once all the other jobs were done. I thought that would be ok. But the time just never came. Even the bride moments I did get to myself, I was always thinking about what needed doing rather than focusing on me!

Putting me first made me the best person I could be

I make a point of allocating time for me now on a daily basis. In fact, I give myself numerous slots in the day for this too. It doesn’t have to be hours, sometimes just 5 minutes of quality “me time” is all that is needed. This time allows me to recharge, take stock and breathe. I can then be there for my family, friends and work colleagues in much more enthusiastic way. I don’t feel like I want to run away, but rather can enjoy these moments more.

How do I do it?

Any moment I get to myself I use productively now. For example, when I am in the car on my own I will listen to a book on audible, or listen to a podcast that I enjoy. I make that time about me, rather than just a boring car journey with the radio on in the background.

I have a bath almost every night now. That is my quiet time, where I can wind down and reflect on my day. This is when I do some journalling, and use my Youper app to get all my thoughts and feelings out. It also combines journalling with daily gratitude thinking and mindful meditations. All of this is part of my bedtime routine which allows me to go to bed feeling uplifted and fully relaxed.

I have things scheduled into my week which is just for me too. This is obviously in conjunction with my partner, to be sure there is childcare etc. Knowing that I can have a night out in the week to go and do something for me, really gives me something to look forward to. I would highly recommend giving yourself this time where possible. If you’re a single parent then utilise the time you do get childfree to do something for you, not just to catch up on the housework. It will be truly beneficial to your life!

Remember: Putting your wellbeing first makes you more receptive to the wellbeing of others, and makes you a better person overall.